Similarly programmed many of us on this negative self concept, lost appreciation, confidence, that was the biggest factor in his failure in this life because who believes in himself, he would act in his life that he could not, and therefore will not reap failure, just as well as the elephant can easily rid itself of constraint, but the problem that he believed in the same failure.
The researchers combined that self-confidence and positive human concept itself is a prerequisite for success, however, studies indicate that 95% of people have negative perceptions about themselves, respect and trust are the reason of course is that negative programming from the human environment since childhood, parenting, school, friends or the media.
Dr. Chad hilstr: (during the first 18 years of age, and assuming your family reasonably positive, you were told you more than 148,000 once (no) or (not so), while in the same period the number of positive messages that your link does not exceed 400 times).
Perception of 148,000 a negative message about the negative concept you have built yourself, for 400 positive message only, what is the result?
Let me ask you a question, how many times in school when you had erred in answering one of the questions I've heard these words (you too stupid), (but you can understand anything), not to mention the accompanying hit or an insult.
Such messages are instilled with time in the deepest subconscious levels, to become well established facts and convictions control human life after that, life goes unconscious self-respect, confidence, be unable to achieve any success.
Therefore, the solution in the mystery of the three characters
W s e … like this. Self confidence
In addition to the negative programming, there are some misconceptions that causes the error in understanding human confidence shortage or appreciation, of these concepts:
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It may be seen to the Pantheon of scholars, leaders and Mujahedin dazzle look, then consider the fact if it does something for those it strikes him that kind of frustration and loss of self-confidence, and to admire the natural human will delight with such greats, but positive fascination which generates motivation and enthusiasm to live up to their homes, trained by.
God created us, and honoured, and kneel for our Angels, how do we value? And the Prophet r when he said: (the best emta century who they follow me) [narrated by Muslim], he said: (my nation such as rain not sure OLE good or so) [narrated by Al-tirmidhi and classed as Hasan by Al-albaani], so as not to hurt the Muslim frustration and despair of living up to those houses.
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It has confused some between self-confidence and vanity or confuses the laudable humility and low self-confidence, self-esteem or self-confidence is believing that God has blessed him with his generosity and Yes great, huge capacity, it is mental and sure of my heart that God gave man talents and potential, which is required, it should raise a human; if he is ignorant of God Yes talent and potential for ounce used for bondage in the Earth, and the most prominent manifestations of succession God on Earth and the pursuit of architecture, culture and progress as we decided.
Therefore, we find the Prophet knows his companions may Allaah be pleased with them as much as themselves, this is called Al Farouq, and another friend, the Secretary of this nation's third and fourth Lion of Allah and his Messenger, and Priyanka v saifullah the tuberculous, and much of that was the Prophet wished to instil confidence.
And with confidence that talent from God should be a confident himself believes that this potential but are purely from Allaah, and that their effectiveness depends on the help of God and the grace of a slave, does not dwell in grace and forget the Almighty El, thus escapes from the trap and arrogance and vanity, but if the contrary, in the sense that man by grace are busy and forget monem, confound and flaunts the grace of God on God's creation, it is reprehensible caper in which he said the Almighty: {Those hereafter make it for those who do not want the highest on Earth and not corrupt and consequence of the pious} [stories: 88].
Hope with us two examples of photographs each had enormous potential and great Yes, but one that reflects my photo self confidence stemming from recognition of and gratitude for God's grace, the other shows where the most notorious pictures and wandering and preoccupation with grace with forgetting Moneim.
The first is the Prophet Suleiman and peace upon our Prophet, peace and blessings of God Attah King did not yo'th any of the worlds, and learn the language of the bird and the beast and other creatures, and for this the Holy Prophet went with his army to the Valley of the Ant, and the Ant that heard said: {يٰايها ٱلنمل ٱدخلوا your residences not Solomon and demons they break you, they don't feel} [Ant: 18].
What was the reaction {, chuckle chuckle from saying "Lord of ausani to thank your grace which I bestowed on my father and I accept and log me in to valid your mercy in your righteous} [Ant: 19], hopes his confidence in himself and his grace, and is at the same time attributing it all to the sheer grace of God and his grace.
And the second is Karun God damn, that Attah God of money and treasures as an overture to the first League with force, what was his reaction when he saw all those treasures and money; {but I'm aware uttith} [stories: 78], grace and proportions to itself and not to the grace of God and his grace, this is arrogance and vanity, and nothing for self-esteem and self-confidence.
See jurisprudence hind Bint utbah, God bless them and their appreciation of what came with the women to pay homage to the Prophet, pay homage to them not like corner God something rakan cannot even if he said: (and don't they commit adultery), said may Allah be pleased with him: (uttzni free?!), See positive respect for self, it's free, and free never do those outrageous reprehensible.
Before closing ... Evaluate yourself:
Before closing, dear reader, we encourage you to first carefully assess your current through this questionnaire the scientific that please as usual your struggles with honesty and frankness with yourself, so you can stand on the current level, in order to develop yourself on this important aspect.
Now place the appropriate number in the box, in front of every sentence in the questionnaire using the following scale:
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Answer the following questions, and give yourself the appropriate class for every question, thereby catering for rigorous as possible:
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Ask others to do certain acts without guilt or anxiety.
2
When one asks me to do something I don't want to do reject it without feeling guilty.
3
I am pleased to address a large group of people.
4
Express my sincere confidence in front of influencers (such as at work, for example).
5
When I feel a strong sense of anger or frustration or disappointment to express my sense of ease.
6
When I express my sense of anger, do not blame others.
7
I feel relieved when I hear my voice loud in front of a group of people.
8
When I do not agree with the majority opinion in a meeting, I hold in my opinion without feeling angry or uncomfortable.
9
Admitting guilt or fault.
10
Tell others that their behaviour with me is me if indeed the problem.
11
Find out about the people at social occasions with satisfaction and ease.
12
I discuss my views without describing others stupid or stupidity or ignorance.
13
I assume that most people are competent and trustworthy, and I find no difficulty in recruiting people for specific tasks.
14
When I think about the work I am doing by not feel confidence in the ability to do.
15
I think that my things are important as are the needs of others, I find myself responsible to meet my needs.
If the total score is:
60 more than the behavior of the self confidence you have in most situations.
Either it was 46-50 behavior of self-confidence you have average.
If 45 less behavior of self-confidence you need immediate and urgent support.
Now, after you assess your current situation, please retain the results of this test, to return as a step in the practical gift you program it in an article is coming, God willing to enhance your confidence, so you can compare your before and after application to stand over your progress in this aspect.
The most important references:
1. twelve step for self-development, Mike crisp.
2. your success story, Mohammed Ahmed Al-Attar.
3. power control, Dr. Ibrahim elfiky.
