The art of treating problems
When confronted with something that prevents him from reaching his goal or achieve what he wishes or opposed his career towards his dreams and aspirations. It is a problem or hindrance causes him stress and frustration
When increasing competition and rivalry, conflict and control of physical concepts and values and spirituality, religious and moral. Double trouble people increasingly mutual aggression and bickering. And then some people fall. And there is an urgent need to learn methods of restraint and control emotions and problem solving and negotiation skills
The retreat is one of the healing methods of self-regulation and self control. And the acquisition of calm and stability and avoid frivolity, anger senseless acts that may cost the individual losses are endless. Thus, the retreat has an important role in avoiding problems and avoid multiples and prepare the individual to respond scientifically valid
Through therapeutic retreat sessions training person can adjust from the wrong thoughts and interactions before face different problems. The mental and spiritual relaxation, expel or obstruct the distorted thoughts and fears and exaggerations emotive and instilling values and positive concepts of tolerance, forgiveness and renunciation of anger and emotional stability. The simulation of the behaviour and attitudes of the Prophet and the companions how treatment for such positions – see self-assertion-that person can modify its responses and to emulate those great mental strength to pass these tests difficult skill, confidence and consistency
A person who suffers from emotional arousal and anger quickly to instil in his mind constantly repeats the verse: "forgive them and forgive because God loves the doers of (table 13). "The pay is better if you like him and you enmity and me close" (separated). "And for the patience and determination that forgiven things" (SC)
I have asked some patients with social phobia) fear of social situations) and avoid people as a result of highly sensitive to criticism and fear that directs them to any type of harassment or harm. Repeat the Hadith
"Insured that he mixes with people and keep the harm of a believer who is not mixed with people and not keep to their harm."(In Al-tirmidhi, musnad Ahmad, and Al-bukhaari in literature
And never identified the primary problem and the inventory information. And isolated from the other secondary problems. Try to understand how this problem arose. And what is the real role in. Use a notebook to record this information. Comes the stage of hypotheses. The possible solutions in mind. Then write it in your diary. The imposition or proposed solution type disadvantages and advantages. Then ruled out the hypothesis of weak solutions. Then start with the best solutions for its experience on the ground and test its effectiveness. You need to know to solve any problem must include gains and losses. Also, you should be aware of the need to break up the forces that cause the problem in the sense that not collected liability against you. But if you can penetrate intelligently links that their act together have succeeded in breaking the problem into manageable parts
If the first solution does not fix. Record has its advantages and disadvantages and go to the second solution thus
And therapeutic retreat given the problem far-fetched that a net view and analyse its causes thoroughly so that it can deal with the problem without gusts of Gale or emotions stupid crashes the proper mindset. They also depart from anger and gain individual fortitude and calm are the factors that affect a lot of access to good solutions. and innovative
And psychological preparation before the positions of distress and crisis known to senior politicians and practitioners under the slogan of. During the retreat could the person (proof) test session before the theatre practice
There are several commandments and concepts can benefit a person in such situations:
Respect for the opponent and avoid using words or insinuations of prey greatly benefit in solving the problem and not its complexity
Confidence and to meet your gaze to the opponent without provocation and without shaking or effervesce
To sit quietly and consistently
Would prefer to wait until you hear another view full
When surprised by battle or attack don't want him don't make your concentration is focused on the discussion topic on the angry person that firmly declares that the discussion with the emotions will not reach the result. You can withdraw by check or the speech. Or studying the topic argument
There is also a negative question. When the problem with the President or someone important in your life and do not want to lose. And to recognize that there is an error and then show your willingness to fix it. And may even ask if there is any other cons finds it needs to change.
Flexibility and so-called emotional coloration. Important you must put in mind. To be able to show praise and appreciation and praise if necessary (without hypocrisy or exaggeration). And not to prolong the stalemate and emotional one. But we must learn the importance that reflect moments of anger and distress.
And remember that the Prophet was dominated by anger and great capacity. emoticon. And Abu Dawood and Al-nasaa'i narrated from Abu Musa: that the Prophet was if some feared said: "o Allah, I make you at their throats and we seek refuge," in all of their evil
