Common search

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Be yourself

Be yourself
Some think that the strength of character can be collected through a representative process, so they can try out some special techniques, such as how to shake hands, and take the initiative in meetings, and stare firmly in the eye of the other person as if was magnetically Mnoma ..However, those methods may have side effects, because they affect the appearance, not substance ..Valjohr in strength of character is to be always yourself at its best, and therefore the most influential people do not change their character and circumstance. They are the same, there is no difference if they are in an intimate conversation, or speeches on the occasion, or conducting an interview request to Outifah.They communicate with the world full of themselves, heart and mind, and be the tone of their voices and gestures of their hands completely consistent with their words and what is going on in the thoughts.You your personality, if you as you you'll be your perfume, and your charm, provided that they are honest with yourself, and consistent with the feelings ..You might say: So if you're not delighted to meet someone Do I have to declare him to do so from the beginning?The answer is in exile, of course, but when you are not happy with it, so do not try to lie and claim that you gone to meet him.You when they are in harmony with yourself, your features will believe your words, but when you are so you'll Tkzpk those features, no matter how you try to hide ..Imam Ali (peace be upon him): «What a man really talked about only appeared in the facial features and face, and bouts of tongue (Nahj).The 'body language' can sometimes be more an expression of a person of 'tongue language'.Valsedk with self gives you the truth, that is the same width in attitudes ..Some may wonder here, saying: do you not learn from others how to act? Do they not guided by who is better than me, and I know?The answer of course is Yes .. Without that you learn from others can not improve your business performance, but always required is that you are trying to emulate Blachrin, and are not taking on their personalities. You are born special by the will of God - the Almighty - The unique Eradk people, not a duplicate from the others ..Therefore we do not find there are two people are alike in life .. Even twins ..People are different from each other from head to toe. The 'gene' and 'chromosomes' - the tiny cells that carry heredity factors from parents to children - in a position to be countless formations .. Even children who have grown up in a single environment, and they went to one school, and influenced by the tenets and traditions and ideals one, will never find them resemble each other completely similarities.Allah says:) has created you Otora ((Surat Noah, verse 14), what of the two men were quite similar, every new life is nothing new under the sun; there is nothing like before, and would not like it also generates a second. One must realize this idea of ​​itself; must be looking forward to the only spark in the personality marked by other people, and develop those spark to the extent that it deserves.Perhaps trying to schools, colleges and community to تنميها him; but they put us all in a single template.Do not let this spark lost; They are the only real way along to gain strength.There is no man like you in the world.Hundreds of millions of people have eyes and ears, but no one like you completely; No one has ميزاتك and your way and you think, very few of them speak and express themselves like you when you speak in a manner normally, in other words, you have a character individual, a human being, has the most precious divine gift suspending them developed and it is the spark that will power and sincerity in your speech, which is the only real way to gain strength.Thus it is not a shame to be a different from the others, and the right that both of us is different, and so we must be, all of us object individually facing the world and others in a inimitable, for this Search deepest convictions and be a security her and guided its light.Then you should not forget that the same to the original, and tries instead to be other will be very tired, it has been proven that a public fatigue phenomenon for those who have to dust themselves indigenous.Indeed, they are not tired as much as the others get tired of them, has been described psychologist Dr. Jackson in her book «trick nerves» number of patients who reached their fatigue limit prevent them from standing on their feet, which summarize their experience as follows: «The sense of loss physical energy in fact is a sense of loss of spiritual energy.In fact, we are tired, often, does not come from the muscle strength as much as it comes from our effort to achieve ourselves, we representatives trying to influence anyone but us, and this is hard work.However, the inherent really not wasting his energy in resolving contradictions, so that honesty shown by the resolve internal conflicts and infused with vitality and joy, and he does not make his energy but to do what he wants and what he considers important.***Here are a fundamental note, which is that harmony with the self, which means that as you are, can not be achieved only if the high estimate to yourself. Someone who not respect the same can not be respectful of others, and the opposite is also true, it is the same respect and appreciate Khaleeq more than anyone else to treat others as much as they are treated the same.You can not love others unless you love yourself too if you think of yourself weak, and you feel that the shortage to be yourself, reflected on the attitude of those around you.If you Naqma yourself, feeling of inferiority will be reflected people Nqmtk.So no rest for us if we do not know ourselves and Nanqrha, not a force for good, emerging from within us if we saw in ourselves weak ..I once asked: If self-love - the sense of being per متيما - is not required, and hatred is not required So what is required?I said: required but is self-esteem, and this is what you should always earned ..In summary, the strong personal respect themselves and respect the people, and they say what they think is the right thing, and act according to their conscience, not looking for a pretend to please others, and do not see themselves obliged to something do not believe in it.Therefore, personal power is very dependent on willpower, even acting one Bsjath and by his vision of life.To be yourself it must do what you want to do, Lama wants others to do.You are one of the servants of God, and not one of the servants of others. Therefore, you need to be free in your actions, in the sense that you choose what you want to choose, and not what others want you ..I do not mean that you have to be «Mr. other people and to refuse requests from you, but I mean that you should be free to choose positively, and not always react.The strength of character sometimes depend on the harmony between what you think, and what you want, and what they do. Which makes you in harmony with yourself, do not feel the contradiction between what you like and what they do ..Some people always acted through acceptance to impose their will upon others, while or needed to be free to choose the work you want to do.Try yourself in the issue you want to discuss them with someone else, and see if you have created a set of arguments and evidence and evidence in order to remember the other party to persuade him Bmoukvk, but instead mentioned him, Trac into the trap that puts him in front of you, it is for example start talking and reviewing his arguments and instead of offering his arguments only cold arguments and براهينه then choose one of the options that put it in front of you, you are here to choose but within a selection of others, and regret it ..So why not try the next time to do what you want and want, is to try to hurt anyone or to impose your will upon ..?It is your right to do what you want to do, and the right of others to do what they want, provided that they do not impose your views, and you do not impose on them your opinions ..Thus you be yourself. In that lies the first requirements of personal power. And which are the focus of happiness in life.

No comments:

Post a Comment

.

Powered By Blogger

Search This Blog