Do
not be nice too
Liked the way that pose the Duke Robinson, author of "Do not be nice too" ideas and experience life, which run counter to some extent the principles advocated by the literature NLP and public relations of the human person must be given the greatest possible loved ones and friends and understand All the people around him, but that in many cases be a fundamental cause of personal and social failure. So I wanted to introduce a summary of this book and share it may be that permeated the interest on everyoneAlways trying to do what others expect from you, and careful not to hurt their feelings, quick to help friends and relatives whenever they need you and avoid Mzaiqathm even if provoked anger, then you are a nice person and you love and care that would people describe you so. However, if thinking in depth Slot 'gentle' you will discover that it often behaviors 'defeatist' if you say yes when they should say no, or pretend calm when you are angry, or resorting to lie because you fear hurting the feelings of others, have bear above your energies burdens so as not to embarrass the people dear to you. you in order to maintain Gracefully dealing with others committed many errors that may have adverse affects on your business and social relationships.One of the biggest mistakes that characterized Balltafh is a tendency to perfection, posing great pressure, and requires painstaking effort from him to prove oneself, performing various tasks to the fullest, as well as the Permanent gratification of others. Should clarify here that try to access the perfection in itself is not wrong, but it becomes wrong when she pushes you to set standards unrealistic for yourself, or Tqaibdk not bear of effort, time, or money, or when it becomes an obsession to the point hinder your performance for your business. and the first step to correct this error is the belief (and not just repeating words) that there is no one is perfect and accept shortcomings you have. comes after the realization that perfection is not the only way to acquire acceptance of others.The next trend for Kamal summarizes Duke Robinson, in his book 'Do not be too nice' other errors where there is the friendly people on a daily basis, including:- Play a greater obligations of energy: they usually feel يوقعنا kindness in trouble, either to say no to someone dear to ask us something we feel selfish guilt, or try to do whatever is asked of us our energy Vnstanzv.- Do not say what you want: and may resort to it because you think it is socially inappropriate, or do not want to be seen as weak, or fear of rejection or do not want to embarrass those who love. In all cases, the not to disclose your feelings and your requirements and the suppression of what you want for others you will organic mental illness and may also dissipate the features of your personality.- Suppression of anger: the intention here is to keep calm nerves while inside you boil as a result of the exploitation of others for you or harm to your feelings, which is a kind of falsehood and lies for oneself and for others. Advocate against the suppression of anger does not mean never arise volcano, all you have to show the others that such conduct is bothering you so as not to repeat it.- Evasion of the truth: In order to be always pleasant, you often shy away from telling the truth so as not to embarrass others, but that does not help you does not benefit them. You tell the truth with humility and sensitivity. For example: if I asked your wife what you think about Chinese potatoes that you do not like, do not have to lie and say it was great, and there is no need also to be rude and say they were bad, but you can answer that you usually like potatoes from her hand, but taste this time was somewhat different. Thus they have emerged from the impasse with minimal losses.To get rid of the former Mini errors do not mean never stop to be kind, but only helps us to rationalize the additional effort to maintain the handle gently at all times, which often comes at the expense of our nerves and our comfort. But if you do not suffer from being a 'nice too.'The friendly people often do things that others expect of them,And trying to satisfy their requirements, without the hurt feelings, and without losing their nerve. When attacked by others without prudence, maintain for their kindness and calm.Is that these people are friendly whenever أمعنوا in to dispose of these good intentions, and to help others, and spoke and acted with all this remarkable level of tact, then Intabhm feeling tired and frustrated and lack of self-confidence.These behaviors, which are used by the friendly people in good faith, and in their usual manner, have adverse affects on their relationships, and extracted some joy in their lives.Day after facing these behaviors on our way, that crazy us, and steal time and energy Tmintin are the most precious thing we have, and summarize these behaviors nine errors backfiring, which is worthwhile because we just thought and effort we can stop doing them:• free ourselves from the obligation to what others expect of us which we are not convinced.• to say: No, if necessary, and pure ourselves from carrying not tolerate.• to tell others what we want them, and that we receive actually.• to express anger in a way that heals, and maintain our relationship.• to respond effectively when people attack us or criticize us without prudence.• to tell our friends the truth when they let us down.• to care about others without bearing the burden of trying to manage their lives.• to help our friends and our loved ones who tend to destroy themselves to regain their mental health.• feel Bohlitna, and Nfna when facing pain, and sadness.
Liked the way that pose the Duke Robinson, author of "Do not be nice too" ideas and experience life, which run counter to some extent the principles advocated by the literature NLP and public relations of the human person must be given the greatest possible loved ones and friends and understand All the people around him, but that in many cases be a fundamental cause of personal and social failure. So I wanted to introduce a summary of this book and share it may be that permeated the interest on everyoneAlways trying to do what others expect from you, and careful not to hurt their feelings, quick to help friends and relatives whenever they need you and avoid Mzaiqathm even if provoked anger, then you are a nice person and you love and care that would people describe you so. However, if thinking in depth Slot 'gentle' you will discover that it often behaviors 'defeatist' if you say yes when they should say no, or pretend calm when you are angry, or resorting to lie because you fear hurting the feelings of others, have bear above your energies burdens so as not to embarrass the people dear to you. you in order to maintain Gracefully dealing with others committed many errors that may have adverse affects on your business and social relationships.One of the biggest mistakes that characterized Balltafh is a tendency to perfection, posing great pressure, and requires painstaking effort from him to prove oneself, performing various tasks to the fullest, as well as the Permanent gratification of others. Should clarify here that try to access the perfection in itself is not wrong, but it becomes wrong when she pushes you to set standards unrealistic for yourself, or Tqaibdk not bear of effort, time, or money, or when it becomes an obsession to the point hinder your performance for your business. and the first step to correct this error is the belief (and not just repeating words) that there is no one is perfect and accept shortcomings you have. comes after the realization that perfection is not the only way to acquire acceptance of others.The next trend for Kamal summarizes Duke Robinson, in his book 'Do not be too nice' other errors where there is the friendly people on a daily basis, including:- Play a greater obligations of energy: they usually feel يوقعنا kindness in trouble, either to say no to someone dear to ask us something we feel selfish guilt, or try to do whatever is asked of us our energy Vnstanzv.- Do not say what you want: and may resort to it because you think it is socially inappropriate, or do not want to be seen as weak, or fear of rejection or do not want to embarrass those who love. In all cases, the not to disclose your feelings and your requirements and the suppression of what you want for others you will organic mental illness and may also dissipate the features of your personality.- Suppression of anger: the intention here is to keep calm nerves while inside you boil as a result of the exploitation of others for you or harm to your feelings, which is a kind of falsehood and lies for oneself and for others. Advocate against the suppression of anger does not mean never arise volcano, all you have to show the others that such conduct is bothering you so as not to repeat it.- Evasion of the truth: In order to be always pleasant, you often shy away from telling the truth so as not to embarrass others, but that does not help you does not benefit them. You tell the truth with humility and sensitivity. For example: if I asked your wife what you think about Chinese potatoes that you do not like, do not have to lie and say it was great, and there is no need also to be rude and say they were bad, but you can answer that you usually like potatoes from her hand, but taste this time was somewhat different. Thus they have emerged from the impasse with minimal losses.To get rid of the former Mini errors do not mean never stop to be kind, but only helps us to rationalize the additional effort to maintain the handle gently at all times, which often comes at the expense of our nerves and our comfort. But if you do not suffer from being a 'nice too.'The friendly people often do things that others expect of them,And trying to satisfy their requirements, without the hurt feelings, and without losing their nerve. When attacked by others without prudence, maintain for their kindness and calm.Is that these people are friendly whenever أمعنوا in to dispose of these good intentions, and to help others, and spoke and acted with all this remarkable level of tact, then Intabhm feeling tired and frustrated and lack of self-confidence.These behaviors, which are used by the friendly people in good faith, and in their usual manner, have adverse affects on their relationships, and extracted some joy in their lives.Day after facing these behaviors on our way, that crazy us, and steal time and energy Tmintin are the most precious thing we have, and summarize these behaviors nine errors backfiring, which is worthwhile because we just thought and effort we can stop doing them:• free ourselves from the obligation to what others expect of us which we are not convinced.• to say: No, if necessary, and pure ourselves from carrying not tolerate.• to tell others what we want them, and that we receive actually.• to express anger in a way that heals, and maintain our relationship.• to respond effectively when people attack us or criticize us without prudence.• to tell our friends the truth when they let us down.• to care about others without bearing the burden of trying to manage their lives.• to help our friends and our loved ones who tend to destroy themselves to regain their mental health.• feel Bohlitna, and Nfna when facing pain, and sadness.
It
is well known that women suffer social pressures greater than the suffering of
men to not Atifat, and that most people believe that men do not have the same
level of kindness women, but whether you're a man so nice, or a woman nice you
probably repeated falling into these errors nine which appends your damage.From
the book Do not be too nice to the writer Duke Robinson.Why rest to a
specific person without the other?Some
scientists recently proved that there is a map of love found in the human brain.
This
mapIs
that human help to know whether a person is an appropriate corresponding
linkOr not. According
to scientists to map love in the human brain is a collectionQualities
that wants human existence when the ideal person who aspires to link
to.So
that as soon as the meeting someone meets the qualities in your brain, you feel
attractedHim, and vice versa. These
attributes are stored in the brain during all stages of life, such as a
smileYour
mother and your father's sense of humor when, that is, they gather recipes over
the journey of life in the form ofMap found in your subconscious mind.
When you
meet a man apply for most conditions, the brainSecretes a chemical cause for
feeling joy. As
well as other hormones secreted by the body, in addition toTherefore,
the body produces additional amounts of adrenaline and noradrenaline, which
causes facial redness,Sweating hands,
rapid breathing, and a rapid heartbeat. Go after the person, the
effectThese
chemicals decrease of blood and infected human fatigue and depression.
ThisExplains
why Humans saddened when he is away from the person he loves.To
get rid of the former Mini errors do not mean never stop to be kind, but only
helps us to rationalize the additional effort to maintain the handle gently at
all times, which often comes at the expense of our nerves and our comfort.
But
if you do not suffer from being a 'nice too much' and I am still looking for a
way to be nice to you read a book 'Be nice or else'; (Win
Klaepov).
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